The Truth About Meeting Someone At The Wrong Time
Timing is something that none of us can seem to get quite right
with relationships. We meet the person of our dreams the month before
they leave to go study abroad. We form an incredibly close friendship
with an attractive person who is already taken. One relationship ends
because our partner isn’t ready to get serious and another ends because
they’re getting serious too soon.
“It would be perfect,”
We moan to our friends, “If only this were five years from now/eight
years sooner/some indistinct time in the future where all our problems
would take care of themselves.” Timing seems to be the invariable third
party in all of our relationships. And yet we never stop to consider why
we let timing play such a drastic role in our lives.
Timing is a bitch, yes. But it’s only a bitch if we let it be. Here’s a simple truth that I think we all need to face up to: the people we meet at the wrong time are actually just the wrong people.
You never meet the right people at the wrong time because the right
people are timeless. The right people make you want to throw away the
plans you originally had for one and follow them into the hazy, unknown
future without a glance backwards. The right people don’t make you hmm
and haw about whether or not you want to be with them; you just know.
You know that any adventure you had originally planned out for your
future isn’t going to be half as incredible as the adventures you could
have by their side. That no matter what you thought you wanted before,
this is better. Everything is better since they came along.
When you are with the right person, time falls away. You don’t worry
about fitting them into your complicated schedule, because they become a
part of that schedule. They become the backbone of it. Your happiness
becomes your priority and so long as they are contributing to it, you
can work around the rest.
The
right people don’t stand in the way of the things you once wanted and
make you choose them over them. The right people encourage you: To try
harder, dream bigger, do better. They bring out the most incredible
parts of yourself and make you want to fight harder than ever before.
The right people don’t impose limits on your time or your dreams or your
abilities. They want to tackle those mountains with you, and they don’t
care how much time it takes. With the right person, you have all of the
time in the world.
The truth is, when we pass someone up because the timing is wrong,
what we are really saying is that we don’t care to spend our time on
that person. There will never be a magical time when everything falls
into place and fixes all our broken relationships. But there may someday
be a person who makes the issue of timing irrelevant.
Because when someone is right for us, we make the time to let them into our lives. And that kind of timing is always right.
(c) Heidi Priebe
With Love,
Patricia <3
