Sometimes that last person to whom we want to listen is our
mother. How is she always right? Why does she always know what we don’t
want to hear but absolutely need to?
Some of the best advice my mom has ever given me is in regard to what
she calls “man space.” This is the little corner of your brain (or
massive corner) that whichever males are in your life at the time fill.
This person or persons is not your boyfriend, and probably has no intention to ever being that.
Mom would always say, “Clear your man space!” or “Does he really
deserve your man space?” While I was always annoyed at the time when she
said these things, looking back, she was so right.
Why is it that we must always have someone to fill that spot?
Our generation is so accustomed to instant gratification, and we do a
hell of a lot of settling just so we don’t have to be alone.
Well, the space in our minds should be a five-star hotel, in which no one can live until they deserve it.
In the past, I know I have wasted so much brainpower on boys
who never even deserved a second glance. I did this simply because I
didn’t want to be alone.
Don’t get me wrong; it’s nice to have someone to text at midnight or drunk call when you don’t want to walk home alone.
But, why? This person has no intention of staying until morning, let alone learning your name and favorite kind of ice cream.
Let’s face it: As females, it’s in our DNA to care — that’s just what
we do. We are creatures of emotion and this is usually what gets us
into trouble. We care too much about someone who doesn’t feel the same
way about us.
We wrap our heads around the thought that maybe, this man could turn
into more. Or, maybe, he will change tomorrow. Or, maybe, after one more
night, he will start to care more.
These things most likely won’t happen. “Man space” should never be
filled until it is with someone who truly deserves to be there.
It’s hard to figure out how to be on your own without any sort of guy
to validate you or give you attention. But, why do we even want
attention from these people?
Why not spend your time with your girls and not worry about whether
someone will call you or maybe like your Instagram picture. It’s not
worth it.
Males treat females how they do because females enable them to do so.
It’s time to mix that up; don’t let anyone in until he or she deserves
to be there.
Chances are, once you find the right guy, you will be thankful that
you don’t have suitcases full of man baggage to carry along with you.
There’s even a chance that you are missing out on the right one
because your brain is too focused on the wrong ones. It is now time to
do some mental cleaning and decide who’s really meant to be in your
brain.
I look back and think about all the times my friends and I were
focused on someone who was not worth it. That time could have been such
better spent.
Instead of wallowing in the uncertainty of why he doesn’t like you or
whom he may be with, we could do ourselves a favor by not getting
involved in the first place.
Instead of self-doubt, let’s make the change to self-respect. Get it
into your head that you are strong, smart and wonderful. The right
person will see that and he will be way more interested in filling more
than just your “man space.”
Hi readers! Again, I just had to shout out my love for color gray! I haven't read the book nor watch the movie. I'm not yet 18! I don't have time to read books as well! If you only knew guys how many books I've wasted or left hanging in my desk! Tsk. Hahaha. If I can marry this color, I really would! So much love!!! You know what to give for my birthday!!!!! Anything in gray but again, make ups are the best-est gift you can give to me. Nyx, Elf and if you have the budget, okay don't be shy of giving Revlon, Mac, Etude or Face Shop. Awwwww. <3 Matchy matchy top and pants from Papa, Sling bag from Mama Edios and Mary Janes from Primadonna. Thanks again Tony and Jackey for my hair!!! 3 years and counting hahaha and yes say yes to bangs!! February went so fast. I'm getting older!! No way!!! Some people still notice me as a high school student and others ask if I have my job already. What to believe? Lol. Sending you all my virtual hugs for still visiting my baby blog! :)
